"Who is Kate?"

On living with my she's-not-dead name.

Let’s not bury the lede: I loathe the term ‘deadname.’ I don’t like using it for myself; I avoid using it to describe others. Every time I hear it, the record skips. Like this past week when I bristled hearing word-minting national treasure Dan Savage say it on his podcast.¹ I dislike the word so much that I tried to write three other intros to this news…